Spend the week feeling the actions and reactions (energy movement) in others and in your environment. When possible, balance yourself and then wait. Empathy is the ability to feel existing energy and its transitions.
This week we are going to talk about communication and influence, how energy movements affect change. Empathy is the ability to feel and interpret changes in energy.
With others, spoken language and physical gestures are a small part of your interaction, you primarily communicate with their subconscious minds and held fears. Navigating that mine field is an art that requires presence and empathy.
Start with this presumption, people are and will always be reactive first and responsive third. A few weeks ago, we talked about the cycle: threat, familiarity, opportunity.
(L9W1) Value is assigned hierarchically in three tiers. The first tier is threat, second is familiarity, and the third is benefit. Your mind, especially your subconscious mind, values what is beneficial last. Think about hunger and satiation. Can you feel the different value you give to each? You are programmed to value hunger more strongly than being full. Some of it is physiological but most is mental and emotional.
Everyone you meet is doing the same thing as you. First, they look at you and determine your threat level. Second, they look to see if you fit comfortably into their familiar configurations. Lastly, they look for any opportunities that might be present.
Resourceful people have a high fear threshold and a wide zone of familiarity. They find opportunities because they spend less time and energy focused on their first two tiers, fear and comfort.
People with low fear thresholds and narrow bands of acceptability create a cycle that conceals opportunity. They prioritize threat assessment and then maintaining the familiar. So, they go through life finding possible threats and then contorting themselves or the threat so that the threat is somehow familiar.
As soon as or before they deal with one possible threat and achieve familiarity, they start looking for the next. Any deviation from the norm becomes a threat and the vast majority of things are unacceptable. It is pretty challenging for them to find opportunity when everything around them is either threatening or unacceptable.
Recall someone you know whom you would label as negative. You ask them where they want to go for dinner and they proceed to tell you all the places they don’t want to go. You offered an opportunity and they reacted as if the question was a threat, as if you were going to take them someplace bad. After they list the possible threats, they might list the familiar places that feel safe … with caveats about what they don’t like at those places. Eventually, assuming you haven’t just gone without them, they will settle on someplace known. Rarely do they actively explore the possibilities for the unknown.
How does your ability to feel energy movements in your environment change depending on where you are? Where is it the easiest to feel empathy? Where does it feel the most difficult?
If your desire is to communicate effectively, your challenge will be to maintain energy configurations that encourage safety, familiarity, and opens the door for opportunity.
You create the opportunity for success by altering your configurations to ones that will entrain with your audience. You don’t change who you are, you change how you are so that it resonates sequentially with their threat detector, then their familiar sensor (comfort zone), and then their opportunity gauge.
It begins with self-awareness and continues with empathy and intention.
An analogy would be one I think I have used before. A map is useless unless you know where you are, where you want to go, and the available methods for movement. Once you know where you are, you can plot a course, and then take the most beneficial action.
The first step will be to balance your bodies. It doesn’t matter where you start (physical, mental, emotional, energetic, or environmental) and work through the rest. Once you are generally balanced, you assess the balance of your components in each of your bodies. Do what it takes to maximize the efficiency of each component in each body. Get specific. Get subtle. Find optimal. Remember Balancing Your Bodies Layer Nine, Week One?
The next stage will be to feel your energy flows (this week’s movement). After you feel yours, read the energy flows of your environment and then the energy of whomever you are communicating with. Once you are present and aware, you are in a position to respond. You will respond by determining which of your available opportunities is the most in-line with your intentions. After you select the most appropriate opportunity, you will alter your energy to maximize the chances of success.
In business or business communications, to be successful you will feel energy flows and use them to tailor your message or streamline your offerings. You will read the energy of your audience and adjust. The faster and more efficiently you adjust, the more successful you will be. Communicate with the fear your audience is feeling and make them feel comfortable; then they will be open to the opportunity or product you are offering.
The quickest way to balance your bodies is by rebalancing more often. The closer you are to balanced, the quicker and easier it is to get your balance back. Do your Current30’s or Current150’s until they are second nature. The more often you do them, the more often you will feel the transitions. As it becomes second nature (habit) to be aware of the energy flows in each of your bodies, you will feel the transitions as they happen.
How does your ability to feel energy movements in your environment and relationships change depending on who is present? Who is it the easiest to feel empathy with? Who is the most difficult?
Maintaining your balance is a matter of releasing your presumptions, preconceptions, and predispositions. When released, your energy levels will skyrocket. Presumptions, preconceptions, and predispositions burn a ton of energy. When you stop draining your energy with assumptions, judgments, and defensive posturing, you will find your enlivened neutral.
Be a fool. You are looking to maintain a playful, enlivened neutral, fearlessly and foolishly cavorting in the unknown. The Fool or Jester in most Tarot decks represents innocence, new beginnings, and an open-hearted purity. You may have heard it referred to as Beginner’s Mind. It is free of judgment and condemnation. It has infinite tolerance and a longing to make the inconceivable conceivable. It is boundless and without constraint. It is a place of ecstatic wonder.
Playfulness and wonder constantly try to peak around the curtain of impossible and find ways to make things possible. Playfulness is incredibly opportunistic and undefended. It allows, accepts, and acknowledges the inconceivable.
There is no adult I know, myself included, that allows playfulness to be their default. If you and I can learn to be in that space (configuration), we will be unstoppable. Playful is fearless, unlimited, and without demand or judgment.
Staying the fool takes practice. Part of what you have to practice is allowing yourself to remain happy, content, playful, efficient, and fulfilled. Over the next couple of weeks, you will explore your limiting beliefs about how happy is too happy.
Your subconscious mind will pull energy from that optimal, balanced, and playful place toward your habitual triggers as a way to limit you.
When you are consciously or unconsciously looking to limit yourself, you find ways. They will be diffusions, distractions, resistance, conflict, and comfort.
Happy, content, playful, efficient, and fulfilled can be your default. It can be where you live most of your life, it can be how most of your actions and interactions unfold, and it can be the foundation for all your relationships.
How does your ability to feel energy movements change as you approach a new area or scenario? Can you feel your ability to feel energy movements meet your resistance to feeling the approaching changes? Where does your presumption of tension inhibit your ability to feel the energy flows of empathy?
Happy, content, playful, efficient, and fulfilled are the components of your enlivened neutral. From there, you will have the ability and the energetic space to respond instead of react.
Practice maintaining optimal balance if you want to change your defaults. Commit and be persistent. The happy, content, playful, efficient, and fulfilled default will be uncomfortable, maybe really uncomfortable in the short term. It will be uncomfortable because optimal is not familiar.
Your comfort zone is familiar and suboptimal. Optimal balance will always have a feeling of discomfort, it will feel challenging, it will be a stretch because you are stretching your capability and capacity beyond the norm. Growth is rarely comfortable. Success and mastery require foregoing your comfort to achieve evolution.
After you have gained some mastery in identifying and maintaining a place of optimal balance, you can begin to play with doing the same thing for your relationships, environment, and the people in it.
It will be much easier to determine how, when, and why things and people in your environment change when you are in a balanced place. You will begin by feeling the energies present and then learning how to navigate and devalue other people’s fears, fear triggers, and the resulting reactions. The reactions (results of triggered fear) will be the easiest to feel and identify.
Most of the world inside and outside of you is reactive. Understanding, acknowledging, and accepting that in every moment will allow you to accept it. Acceptance will lower your reactivity. Acceptance is a place of lowered defenses, silenced judgments, and transparency. Acceptance is the breeding ground for your enlivened neutral and the springboard to heightened awareness.
Initially, the biggest fear may be feeling adrift, alone, or separate. When you disconnect from your reaction patterns and the reactions of others, you may feel a disconnect because it feels so different. When you react, you are making a direct connection with the cause of your reaction. When you respond, you absorb the energy of the cause, digest it, and then decide how you want to proceed. It may or may not directly connect with the cause.
The feelings of separation will subside as you adapt from threat assessment to gauging opportunity. When you are consistently gauging opportunities as your default, you stay connected to everyone and everything.
In which of your bodies do you feel the movements of energy the most? Are you primarily mentally empathetic (do you connect to others with your mind)? Do you connect to the emotional energy movements predominantly? Do you feel energy flows in your physically body first?
Feeling the energies present begins with understanding that energy is always moving and it interpenetrates everything. Do you ever listen to your car radio? Every one of the dozens of radio station’s signals constantly broadcasts into your environment. When you change the station, your radio begins focusing on the next wavelength up or down. The previous one still exists, the other hundred still exist. Your radio is choosing which of the frequencies to focus on. Those dozens of radio frequencies all overlap.
The energies from each of your bodies do the same thing. They radiate constantly. The energy from an emotion radiates into your tissues and they react or respond. The tissue’s energy movement radiates out and changes the environment around you. Environmental energy radiates into your body and changes you.
You choose how you interpret energy movements and you can decide which of your energies you radiate most powerfully. Responses happen when you consciously regulate your interpretation.
Influence happens when you regulate the energy you radiate. Change your world from the inside out!
Watch this video for at least a minute until it shows the shapes (quark and gluon field fluctuations). Subtle body energy may eventually prove to be quarks moving as illustrated in the video (1:05). As the quantum fields move and reconfigure at incredible speeds, they form patterns. On a much larger scale, I propose that more distinct patterns become what I have described as energy movements (fluid, accumulating, centering, percolating, expansive, scattered, explosive, stagnant, isotonic, isometric, fluctuating, bleeding, compressive, and transitional)
The patterns make up your mental, emotional, environmental, and energetic bodies. When a friend smiles and hugs you, at the subatomic level their quarks and gluon fields are configuring into a familiar movement pattern. You feel the change, remember that you have affection and you (and your quantum fields) configure into a familiar pattern. You begin to change the configurations in all your bodies. The result is that you smile and return the hug.
Your physical body may prove to be a conglomeration of sub-atomic fields held together by consciousness. Memories are recurring patterns of mental quantum field fluctuations that have the capacity to trigger concurrent quantum field configurations in your other bodies.
You, influencing and being influenced by the energies around you, might eventually be explained scientifically by quark and gluon field fluctuations. It may not be WooWoo, Airy Fairy, Hippie Dippie, VooDoo, Spiritual Mumbo-Jumbo after all.
In the meantime, you will have to experience energy (quantum field fluctuations) for yourself and allow it to be or become a part of your belief system.
After you have identified the primary body you use for empathy, begin to feel for energy movements in your other bodies. Which of your bodies is the second easiest to feel?
Change happens in your environment and others the same way it happens in you, either by reaction or response. Most of the change that happens is reactive. An analogy for quarks and gluon fields might be someone playing billiards. Their cue impacts the cue ball in a specific trajectory with a specific force. As that ball impacts another ball or the cushions, change happens. The cue ball doesn’t need to touch every ball to have an effect. Every ball it touches will influence every ball they touch (like the quarks).
If you go into your local coffee kiosk and ask for a double latte, you will get a response. Ask for a hamburger without onions, you will get a reaction. One is familiar and elicits habitual responses. The other is unfamiliar and sets off a cascade of reactions.
Responses change to reactions when they exit the familiar. Ask for two double chai lattes, one with a shot of vanilla, and the other with two shots of sunblock. The barista will respond until you say sunblock and then he or she will go into reaction. You will see it happen. You can probably imagine how their body language will transition. You will see recognition change to confusion in their eyes and mouth. Their energy will change in each of their bodies and then influence the energies around them.
Empathy happens when you can feel the changes, not only in the barista but in the space around you. Asking for sunblock in a coffee shop disturbs the Wah, the familiar energy of the space. The space (environment) reacts in a very similar way to the barista. You have probably felt the energy change in your environment. Imagine a group of high school cheerleaders or football players coming into the coffee shop. Their energy will alter and influence the energy.
As you feel empathy, see if you can feel for any qualities of fear. If you feel fear, what fear story does the reaction feel like it comes from?
The environmental energy can also change presumptively. The energy of the coffee shop knows you, the cheerleaders, and the football players are coming and prepares itself. It knows because as you influence the energy outside the coffee shop, the energy inside feels the shift and reacts.
Energy moves in outward waves like the effect when you drop a pebble in a lake. Every movement of energy creates a ripple. Every thought, sensation, emotion, action, and reaction creates a ripple of energy. Some ripples are more energized, some combine to form waves, and others cancel each other. Some energies fade and some persist.
These ripples ripple at different frequencies, combinations of slow to fast, short to long and weak to strong. Others and your environment, the energies that are affected by these ripples, interpret them based on their habits, patterns, and predispositions.
Before you can successfully enter the empathy arena, you need to know what game you are playing and then match it to the game the people and your environment are playing.
Your game will be understanding the current energy configurations in each of your bodies, components, and movements and then reading the energy flows of the environment.
Feeling and understanding the existing energies will allow you to alter your resonance to maintain your trajectory with minimum interference, distraction, or resistance. Entraining the environmental energies will provide you with support and fuel your growth, momentum, and collaboration.
Next week, you will continue to explore how to quickly presence yourself, read energy, and respond in the most beneficial and successful ways. To do this, you will find resonance, entrain with your environment, and then raise the vibrations until they meet your intention or trajectory. You will change your world from the inside out.
Feeling Your Energy Flows
Step 1 – Take a comfortable seat, have a music device handy with a few songs cued up, a couple you like and maybe a couple you don’t.
Step 2 – Allow yourself plenty of time to settle.
Step 3 – Do a Current150.
Step 4 – Focus on settling.
Step 5 – Once you feel completely settled, without moving, feel the energetic shifts in all your bodies when you contemplate turning on the music.
Step 6 – Physically, your body will prepare in anticipation of movement.
Step 7 – Your emotional body will shift from the soft and settled place to a presumptive upwelling in anticipation of hearing your favorite song.
Step 8 – Your mental body will begin to recall previous experiences with that particular song and music in general and will begin to focus on the logistics of pushing the play button.
Step 9 – Energetically, you will feel the shift from soft and settled to about to move.
Step 10 – The environmental energy will change from self-contained to prepared to receive the energy of the music.
Step 11 – Feel the shifts that happen in each of your bodies as you reach out and are just about to push the play button. Go slow and feel how the energy ramps up in preparation for the next shift.
Step 12 – Feel the energetic transitions in each body as the music begins to play.
Why it Matters – This is subtle awareness. This Kriya will increase your ability to feel energy moving and the influence it has on the relationships between your bodies.
Everyday Usability – The subtle changes you experience in this Kriya happen in every interaction you have. Becoming aware of energy in each body as if shifts will bring a new level of connection to yourself.
Progression – As you can feel them in a controlled, practiced, and slowed down way, it will be easier to feel them in real-time. As you can feel them real-time, you can decide if the shifts match your intention or if they are diffusions, distractions, or lead to resistance.
Step 1 – Find a place where you can surreptitiously observe others interact. Restaurant, coffee shop, etc.
Step 2 – Begin to feel for the energy flows of the people in your environment.
Step 3 – Feel for reactions and responses. You may see them first, but try to feel them in one or more of your bodies.
Step 4 – Feel for defensive posturing and the direction energy is going between people.
Step 5 – Look for and feel for each of the components in the interactions of others. Also feel for the lack of the components. (Focus, Speed, Endurance, Strength, Flexibility, Stability, and Rejuvenation.)
Step 6 – Feel for how the energy is moving in the components and bodies. (Spherical, pushing, pulling, swirling, curving, repelling, attracting, stifling, compressing, opposing, resistant, fragmenting, lopsided, dispersed, vaporizing, welcoming, inspiring, or filtering)
Step 7 – Feel for the energy configuration of each person in a conversation. Watch and feel for changes. Feel the flow of the interaction.
Step 8 – If you are at a coffee shop, feel the energetic shifts of the cashier throughout their interaction with each customer. Feel it shift from one customer to the next. See if you can feel what the cashier’s energy does between customers.
Step 9 – Feel for the balance point in each person. Does he or she feel centered or is their energy out in front of them, scattered, compressed, etc.?
Why it Matters – This is empathy. This Kriya will increase your ability to feel energy moving and the influence it has on the relationships between others and the environment.
Everyday Usability – The subtle changes you experience in this Kriya happen in every interaction. Becoming aware of energy in others as if shifts completely change how you interact with the world by adding several degrees of depth to all your environmental and relational interactions.
Progression – After you can feel the subtle energy movements and transitions between others, you can begin to feel it in your perseonal interactions.